Thick Girls are not Beautiful By Thamarah Singgaram

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Thick Girls are not Beautiful by Thamarah Singgaram

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“Macha ellame okay,ana athu konjum size-a terile unakke? (Macha, everything is okay. But don’t you think she is a little fat?)” lamented Suresh. Haren was very much in love with Neeta and he had to share how he felt with someone, despite Suresh being his closest buddy in the entire universe, he was perplexed as something as meager as a woman’s size was of such importance to Suresh. To him Neeta had the most pleasant of smiles, you know the kind of smile which illuminates the entire room, as spiralled locks of her raven black hair fell perfectly on her face and her bright hazel eyes made his heart skip a beat.Yes,she was plump and robust, and that’s what made Neeta beautiful albeit.

“Ponungge ippeve gunda iruntha kalyanam mudinja udane peruthurungga, jaakeretha da macha!! (Girls who are fat now will become even fatter after marriage. Better be careful!)” said Suresh as he burst into laughter. Haren could not take it, suddenly a spasm of anger rushed through his veins and he said “Macha, nee yareda ennode Neeta va kore sole (Who are you to talk about my Neeta?).” As he downed more whisky, He grabbed the helmet and gave Suresh one whip. (excuse my drama here, it’s a result of watching too many Tamil serials,haha)


To our despair, more Suresh’s exist but there are only a few Harens.And this thought has infected way too many people, especially in this Malaysian indian community. From machas to makciks, almost everyone’s ideal of a woman includes fair, thin and tall. In Indian mythology, women like Menaka and Thilothama(Apsaras) were depicted to be full breasted and voluptuous, these women DEFINED beauty in indian culture.But this has changed tremendously as now everyone digs Ileana Iduppu (hips) and more of the pencil like figure.


Menaka seducing sage Vishvamithra.



I am not denying that slim women are beautiful. It is healthy to be slim and healthy is beautiful. But I am clearly questioning the need to discriminate a woman who is set heavier and more on the fluffy side. My personal experience of being thick,chubby or whatever you name it, is receiving tonnes of unpleasant comments. Especially from the machas and the aunties. One dude I remember from school times told me that “ Neethan vellaiya alaga irukkeille,nee workout panni olli aana,we can be together (You are so fair and pretty. If you workout and become thinner, we can be together)” . And the worst comment I’ve received from an aunty is that “Unga vayasukke neenge intha size’le irkekoodathe (You shouldn’t be this fat especially for your age)”. While she was also carrying easily 20 kilos of extra fat. Hypocrisy at its best!

This community will be a better place to be in if all the women were treated equally and looked at as pure.All women deserve the tender,loving care of a completely non-judgemental male,to be honest.(Pssst..Sister talk:If he comments about the way another girl is,trust me he isn’t the one! )


 But sometimes the comments and words that hurt us the most come from people who surround us, people we love and people that actually matter in our lives. This once,I didn’t expect someone who I THOUGHT was a very dear friend and more like a sister to me to speak behind my back about my size,yes she may fit the society’s criteria of ‘BEAUTIFUL’ and the society’s expectations of a woman but what is beautiful with a personality that receives love, and ungratefully, repays with hurt.

It is also clearly a myth that a thick girl cannot wear revealing or beautiful clothes. I do admit that the choices are not too many when it comes to having a plus-sized closet.But nothing is impossible.It is a choice to be and feel beautiful.Beautiful clothes are not only for the svelte figured.

Our southern sensation Namitha donning a floral summer dress

I apologise if I have distracted many with the above photo but it can’t be denied that women are always beautiful nevertheless. If they are lean and slender or even if they are on the heavier side packing a few extra pounds. It really does not matter if someone is able to carry themselves with confidence and sass. To all of you who share the same opinion as I do, take your time to compliment someone, may it be your mum who has had a post-natal tummy for the past twenty years, or your sister who has thyroid issues and is in the chubby category or your friend who just likes that extra serving of ice cream, to tell her she is beautiful, despite all odds. :)

Cheers to all the Neetas and Namithas around us, keep rocking.Cantik cantik ceria ceria, ladies. :*


 Article by: Thamarah Singgaram


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